Why do children need The Worrinots?
When we speak with parents/carers and teachers about using the The Worrinots, the responses we receive are very mixed. Some parents/carers and teachers want to be on top of their children’s worries, others think their child doesn’t worry, or it’s just not needed. Some of the common, and some worrying, comments we hear are:
‘I’d know if my child was worried, because they’d tell me’
‘My child doesn’t need The Worrinots’
‘They probably do worry, but what can you do?’
‘My child doesn’t worry about anything’
‘What could my child possible have to worry about, they have everything?’
‘So if a child discloses something to do with safeguarding, we’ll have to deal with it’
‘We have enough work to do in school we don’t need this adding to it’
If any of these sound familiar to you, you might want to think, maybe your child does have some of their own concerns, or are they in a school where staff are worried they might have to deal with safeguarding issues.
We like to think nothing unfortunate will happen to our own children, especially when it comes to their well-being and being kept safe. The reality is though, things happen when we least expect it, and to the least likely person. Sometimes parents recognise a change in their child’s behaviour, it’s often related to ‘just a phase they’re going through, they’ll get over it.’ But is it just a phase? Has their behaviour changed back or has it improved? It can’t be anything else can it, because you think your children will tell you, or they just don’t have anything to worry about. However, for a child, it might not just be a phase, it could be something that’s troubling them, but how would you know?
When children are worried, they don’t like speaking about it. Some of the reasons they won’t is because they feel adults will think they’re being silly for worrying, they don’t want to see a negative reaction towards them or they think their parents already have enough to worry about. Very mature thinking for children of such a young age we spoke to.
Although some of the major charities have seen an increase in the number of children approaching them, the majority of their increase has not been through their dedicated phone help lines, it’s actually through their on line sources. Children prefer to use the 21st century methods presented to them.
We didn’t just speak with children and parents/carers, we also spoke with teachers and this was the biggest shock for us. Some of the comments from staff we spoke with were, for me, a cause for concern. When you send your child to school, you expect they’re going to a safe environment, after all schools have policies for keeping children safe.
Hopefully your child is at a school where staff are not too busy to deal with safeguarding issues should the need arise. The school may have a shoe box tucked away in the corner of the room somewhere so children can write any concerns on a note and post them in it. Hopefully the teacher will read it and deal with the issues, because according to some of the comments I received, only if it doesn’t create a workload for them.
Is writing a note on a piece of paper and putting it in a shoe box 21st century though? If a child is worried about their spelling they probably wouldn’t use it anyway, so it’s not really an accessible method for all children to access. How would the school be able to monitor the number of issues posted by children? I would like to think staff are not too busy to monitor, record issues and respond to children’s issues, regardless of how trivial they think they might be.
I’m not suggesting staff would be dishonest, they just don’t want their workload increased. But as a parent/carer, does this reassure you when your child is in school? Worrinots can be used in the school environment to assist staff with instant monitoring of worries and reduces the need for staff to manually collect children’s worries and record them. Simply automated through the Ofsted compliant WotNot app that compliments Worrinots.
Like teachers, parents/carers also have busy lives. A simple notification on your phone when your child shares their worries with the Worrinots is reassuring for both parents/carers and children. Having knowledge of what makes your child worried or anxious can be a powerful insight into why their behaviour may have changed.
Hopefully this has helped you think ‘maybe my child does worry but they’re keeping it to themselves’. By having Worrinots you can be on top of your child’s worries at an early age and help reduce the chances of your child reaching crisis point during their teenage years or beyond.